Married!

We made it! One month married. It feels like just yesterday and forever all in one. Things are slowing down now and I’ve finally had some moments to reflect (when I’m not tearing up at how magical it was and how thankful I feel) on our special, special days in Hawaii. I have quite a few posts I want to do about wedding planning that just didn’t happen in the hubbub of the holidays, wedding prep, Hawaii, then spending two weeks in New Zealand honeymooning totally off the grid (!), and then going straight to Missouri to help my family move. So yeah, we’ve had a few things going on. But I’m pumped to share everything and all of our steps to getting our dream wedding on a budget and doing it all ourselves, soon.

Basically, our wedding was everything I’ve ever wanted and more. Like the most perfect experience that we could have ever asked for. I’m working on lots of posts, but today I just wanted to take a second and bask in our newlywed light and celebrate it. And say THANK YOU to our incredible tribe, without them none of this would have been possible. From mowing the grass at the park, to packing furniture and hanging up lace- you know who you are and we are so, so thankful.

So this post is for them, for us, and of course I’m feeling insanely nostalgic and want to do it all over again right now, but also because I’ve never felt so at peace and so loved and in love. I guess that’s exactly what getting married is supposed to do to you, but I’m still pinching myself we get to be this lucky together with the most supportive friends and family. (I know, a lot of sappy emotions in this post.) But I do truly believe gratitude makes your world go around. And documenting this feeling and how thankful we are just seems right. So this post is sharing my favorite photos from our day and the few major details that made it the most amazing experience of our lives.

Location of ceremony: Koko Kai Beach Park

Location of ceremony: rented home on Koko Head

Wedding Dress: Brides For A Cause, Portland

Reception Dress: Lulu’s

Suit: Thegroomsmensuit.com

Flowers: Safeway, arranged by us

Officiant: Tom John, a good friend

Photographer: Rae Marshall Photography

Hair: Jireh Artistry

Food: Tin Hut BBQ

Bar: Islands Bar Company

Cakes: Costco and Safeway

Two Weeks Until Aloha

Exactly two weeks out from boarding a flight to Hawaii for 5 days in paradise with so many of our amazing friends and family. Oh yeah, and to throw a wedding! It’s insane that the date is almost here. Time flew by and I’m a little sad our engagement is almost over, but I’m so excited to be a wife.

I’ve never really been that into dreaming about a princess wedding, I was that girl who was always more interested in traveling and parties and doing my own thing. But the last nine months of being engaged and going through the experiences of getting to develop a deeper love with someone you’re about to start a new family with is the best feeling. I feel light years away from the person I was a year ago. And it’s funny to me how I thought a yearlong engagement sounded so long. We got engaged in March and it feels like yesterday. We’ve worked hard during our engagement at our new jobs, new promotions, hosting a lot friends and taking some epic trips while planning our wedding all on our own. But we also have been working really hard to build a strong foundation for our marriage. Which we quickly learned is a never ending process. But we also have learned so much more about each other while digging into how we want the rest of our lives and marriage to be. A small part of me wishes we could tell last year’s us that a year is fine! It’ll give you more time to plan! Haha! But hindsight is always 20/20 and ready or not, times up! We are stoked beyond words to get be married in February on a cliff over the ocean in Hawaii in the sunshine.

Since I plan events for a living you’d think I would have had a handle on every aspect of coordinating our wedding. But planning your own means you’re only responsible to yourself. Not going to lie, it’s been a little stressful. Planning it long distance in a state we have never been to also made it significantly harder. But it’s been a great learning process for me events-wise and if all goes well (fingers crossed), our family and friends will be there and that’s all that really matters. (Shout out to Jake for reminding me of that literally every week as I’m panicking about flowers and jewelers and things that just don’t really matter.) I thought it would be fun to share my top 10 inspirations for our wedding and then we can compare afterwards if I pulled it off. We’ve tried to keep it simple and stick to what is most important to us while still creating a good experience for all of those we are so lucky to have join us.

When I envisioned what I wanted our wedding to be, here are the ten ideas and themes I used as my sounding board:

– An intimate ceremony where we knew the officiant and wrote the ceremony together. Our friend Tom got ordained and is marrying us. 🙂

– A different kind of venue. We ended up renting a large retro, very traditional Hawaiian open floor plan home and are hosting the reception there. Our ceremony is being held at a tiny park up the street.

– Sunshine. This is the only real wedding dream I’ve had forever. Outside in the sun. I originally wanted my Missouri farm in June, but Jake had a hard no on humidity and bugs. He’s probably right. We settled on Hawaii to add a little adventure to the mix. And who could resist the call of the islands?

– A fun party. The kind where it’s 7am and you’re still dancing and don’t even notice. Where you’re hoarse for days because you sang your heart out harmonizing with your friends for hours. Hopefully this happens.

– White lace everything. And what can’t be lace can just be white.

– A laidback 1970s vibe. We’ve achieved that hopefully through the retro house, my vintage Spanish lace dress, vintage lace tablecloths used as rugs, the boys’ suspenders and beards, and homemade streamers we will hang throughout the trees.

– Writing our own vows.

– A second line. My friend Julie had one at her New Orleans wedding, I’ve been in a few others, and they are seriously just the best time. We are doing a Hawaiian version of one with a parade up the street from the ceremony to reception. Bringing a little southern fun to the Pacific.

– Good, but unfussy food. Watery green beans and cold plated wedding chicken is my nightmare. We are having a pig roast and BBQ food truck.

– As many candles as I can keep lit. There’s just something magical about a little flame.

And that mostly covers it! Here’s to hoping I can wrap up all the little details in the next 14 days.

~ Aloha Schulte

Ro + Rob got hitched. And it was pretty dang magical.

head table lights I am so grateful for the space I am in right now. I’m still pinching myself that 6 days ago Ro let me coordinate her insanely beautiful wedding. Never have I learned so much in 24 hours, nor felt like time stood still like I did this past weekend. It’s taken me 5 days to be even able to write about it. It was that magical. When I took a second and looked back at my work, in the brief moments where guests were filing out of the ceremony into the cocktail hour, I couldn’t believe this was my life. I was standing on the river bank overlooking a setting sun, its warmth still on my skin, and goose bumps traveled up my spine. Saturday was an incredible amount of work. I’m still sore from lugging boxes and running nonstop for 12 hours. But as I had that surreal moment, you know the one- where you feel like you’re looking down on yourself, you’re in the moment, but not quite- I felt for the first time in a long time that I was just right where I needed to be. I had so much fun helping to curate and design this wedding. The food was delicious. The flowers were beautiful. The DJ and Pastor felt like my besties by the end of the night. But most importantly, two of the most generous hearted people joined two families and created one of their own. Sri Lanka and Germany collided on the banks of the Mississippi on a warm April night, under a sparkling clear tent with the stars shining through. Seriously, it was like straight out of a fairytale. Ro and Rob were married at the National Ornamental Metal Museum, just south of downtown Memphis. The museum sits on what once was a Navy hospital built during the Civil War, so the grounds are old and the buildings are stoic. The theme was “vintage travel” because this couple has been everywhere and traveling the world is important to them in their new adventure of marriage. We kept the decorations simple, vintage, and reclaimed and up-cycled as much as we could to respect our resources and let the Metal Museum’s grounds and the river speak for themselves.

We used vintage, repurposed props where could. These globes were rented from PropCellar Memphis.

We used vintage, repurposed props where we could. These globes were rented from PropCellar Memphis.

We used nontraditional forms of a guest book. Guests signed their name on the vintage globe I found at an antique fair, and also stamped their fingerprint on a "family" tree that Rob's mother painted.

We used nontraditional forms of a guest book setup on a farmhouse table at the entrance. Guests signed their name on the vintage globe I found at an antique fair, and also stamped their fingerprint on a “family” tree that Rob’s mother painted.

We found this old mailbox at Goodwill. I painted it with chalkboard paint and used it to collect love notes for the couple and cards.

We found this old mailbox at Goodwill. I painted it with chalkboard paint and used it to collect love notes for the couple and cards.

Ro + Rob's ceremony took place in the gazebo, right outside the tent.

Ro + Rob’s ceremony took place in the gazebo, right outside the tent.

I kept the flowers simple, arranging 30 bunches of babies breath in over 100 up-cycled bottles we collected for months from friends and family.

I kept the flowers simple, arranging 30 bunches of babies breath in over 100 up-cycled bottles we collected for months from friends and family.

The Mississippi River could not have looked more majestic if it tried.

The Mississippi River could not have looked more majestic if it tried.

Ro made every. single. candle at her wedding. Her dedication to the reusable ingredients was amazing. We found vintage teacups and champagne flutes at Goodwill, which she filled with wax and we lit the reception with.

Ro made every. single. candle at her wedding. Her dedication to the reusable ingredients was amazing. We found vintage teacups and champagne flutes at Goodwill, which she filled with wax and we lit the reception with.

Each table had its own country code which guests had to match with their own personal tags they received upon sign in to find their tables. The countries were all places the couple has visited.

Each table had its own country code which guests had to match with their own personal tags they received upon sign in to find their tables. The countries were all places the couple has visited.

The head table was a rented farmhouse table, kept simple with bunches of white flowers and candles.

The head table was a rented farmhouse table, kept simple with bunches of white flowers and candles. I could not have pulled off this wedding without the help of Rob’s groomsmen, friends, family, and my rockstar best friend, Ryan Hart (seen here in seersucker lighting candles).

The bridal bouquet. Thank you, Holiday Flowers!

The bridal bouquet. Thank you, Holiday Flowers!

 

The cocktail hour took place adjacent to the ceremony, next to a fountain and rose garden.

The cocktail hour took place adjacent to the ceremony, next to a fountain and rose garden.

Right now the bride and groom are jet setting in Paris, Abu Dhabi, South Africa, and England on their honeymoon. Their April beats yours. Hands down. These are some pictures I snapped during the chaos of setting up, but I can’t wait to see the professional ones. When we get those, and I come down from this wedding high, I’ll post all the gory details! Until then, enjoy!

 

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